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The below reflections are based on my expertise as a parenting coach, as well as my experience as a parent and as someone navigating parenting and gender. I am not a medical provider or mental health professional.
My child is trans, nonbinary, or gender-creative and I want to support them. Is it okay that I feel like I’ve lost my son/daughter?
Yes, of course. When we feel like we’ve lost something, we grieve. It is a natural part of being alive. You should honor your feelings of loss and sadness.
Isn’t my child too young to know about gender?
Research tells us that children understand gender starting at a very early age. Between three and five years old, children start to identify with a particular gender (they develop a “gender identity”), which may or may not change over time. Trans and gender-creative kids need their parents' trust and support.